Developing Communication Skills
Developing Communication Skills (2:43)
“Think about the communication as a two-way channel. You’re conveying something to them. And then secondly, decide what it is that is most important for them to know, why is it that they should be listening to what you’re trying to convey to them?”
Let’s break down communications into a formula. The absolute best way to communicate with someone is to listen. Listening is your first wave of communications. When you listen to people, you understand where to bridge that gap and meet them halfway.
Think about the communication as a two-way channel. You’re conveying something to them. And then secondly, decide what it is that is most important for them to know, why is it that they should be listening to what you’re trying to convey to them?
When you speak confident truth and you are unafraid, your body will automatically lower your voice. When people hear a low, authentic, confident voice, they trust the speaker. So first and foremost, learn where your real voice is.
Another technique in communications is to use what we call analogies. So we advise people in communications to, as much as they can, paint pictures with your language. So when you’re describing things, give somebody a visual or give them something that it can remind them of. Say, “It’s like this,” or, “It’s kind of like when you X, Y, Z.” Those are good communications points.
In your life, you’re going to have to get up and speak in front of people or try to influence people somewhere in your life, even if it’s just your family. And that can be really scary to do sometimes. And all I suggest is really think about what you want to say, the thought you want to express.
Present and record yourself and watch yourself and go, “Oh, okay. That will tell you. Everybody has an outlet for their nervous energy, so you need to figure out what is that for you and then work with that. So that’s just on that. But also, know what you’re presenting on.
When you don’t know what you’re talking about is when you get nervous. And so the more research you do ahead of time, the more you practice it on your friends, your family, whoever wants to listen, the more confident you’re going to be in your presentation and the stronger it’ll be. Think about what you really want to express. Try to do it in the clearest, calmest way possible, and always be true to yourself. Really have it come from your heart, and then it’s very rare that you could go wrong.
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